Change Someone’s Mind.No one likes to feel that they aren’t being seen accurately or positively in terms of their abilities, intentions or motivations. So how can you rescue a relationship that has soured or stalled at work — and change your colleague’s mind about you? It isn’t always easy to change people’s minds. The human brain tends to interpret and recall information in a way that confirms your existing belief — and less time considering other points of view. However, the good news is that it can be done, although it takes time, sustained effort, and awareness to tip the scales back in your favour — or at least take them to neutral again. Ultimately, changing someone’s mind about you is about relationship management. It will depend on a few elements, such as the hierarchy and stage of your relationship.
How do you change someone’s mind in a relationship?
- Never, ever say “You are wrong”. …
- Begin in a friendly way. …
- Let the other person do lots of talking. …
- Get the other person saying “yes”. ” …
- Let the other feel that the idea comes from them. …
- Accept the other person’s ideas and desires.
- Be empathetic.
- Make people feel good and safe. …
- Gently lead people from their comfort zones. …
- Understand people’s barriers. …
- Meet them where they are. …
- Show proof. …
- Read the invisible signs. …
- Adapt to your audience. …
How do you make someone change their opinion about you
- PLAYING DETECTIVE. …
- TO ACT OR NOT TO ACT? …
- STEP INTO THEIR SHOES. …
- ACTIONS (OR SYMBOLS) SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. …
- UNRAVEL THE FIRST IMPRESSION. …
- BE PATIENT: THESE THINGS TAKE TIME.
- Highlight a gap. You can increase people’s sense of freedom and control by pointing out a disconnect between their thoughts and actions, or between what they might recommend for others versus do themselves. …
- Pose questions. …
- Ask for less.
How do you get a stubborn person to change their mind?
- Don’t be confrontational from the start. …
- Agree with them on some points to gain their trust. …
- Use logic and reason to make your case. …
- Appeal to their emotions sparingly. …
- Don’t get emotional yourself. …
- Be willing to compromise.
- Provide a menu. Give people a choice and they’re more likely to go along with your idea. …
- Ask, don’t tell. Ask more questions and make fewer statements. …
- Highlight a gap. Berger says that people strive for internal consistency. …
- Start with understanding.